Mediums, Afterlife, death, dying, .....FEAR!!!!!! Everything around death has frightened me forever. Death is a failure, death is punishment, you're going to hell etc etc. Out of the blue-into the black. Oblivion-loneliness. I had an incredible experience today and last night. Julia Assante came and spoke here and gave a workshop on being with the dying, communicating with the dead and brought about a truckload of personal experiences to help us understand what the heck is going on.
Some examples of stuff coming to light:
Afterlife?-yes. We die and we go to a great place of our making. Steve Jobs last words "Oh wow! Oh Wow! OH WOW!" Most people see their dead loved ones coming to greet them. Some report their pets get to them first! A few people temporarily run off into a self imposed "hell"...get stuck having a Groundhog Day kind of thing for a while but they always get out of it. Dead people speak to the living all the damned time. We can incarnate into people, or other life forms. We can incarnate into many people-simultaneously. You could marry another incarnation of you for instance. We keep all aspects of our personality-ego stuff included. Some people die and can't communicate with other dead people for a time. Sometimes the dead need our help (I personally became a medium today) and helped a guy talk with his son who had committed suicide.It's all about your family-loved ones. Our society exploits our fear of death to make money-duh...cancer hospitals? The dead don't have any evil stuff going on. It appears they act with integrity, love, compassion. When we let go of fear-what will this do to society?
Dying people don't always appreciate you praying for them to stay here! They may want to go. Some people need permission to go. A few need to be ordered (usually soldiers who have fought to survive death before. Can you imagine? I order you to die! because they needed permission? wow) The dying have incredible growth before death-in fact most old people grow like mad-I love that. We can cherish this experience! My mom is going nearer to dying right now I feel immense calm and optimism about her now. I was afraid. //"Entities that haven't crossed over" she says aren't personalities-they are thought forms that sometimes have some power to them-like ghosts that levitate beds, etc.//The dead can be grumpy. To work as a medium you need to pull the dead in-even aggressively and insist they stay for the session. Dead atheists report very happy afterlives. Don't always believe in a god either. Physical life is rare. It is a certain way of incarnating. The dead are often nostalgic.LOL Afterlife is a misnomer-it's all timeless. Biology and especially clocks keep us rooted in a time awareness. Having your mind focused on time subtracts from your sensitivity and psi. Health is natural-you don't have to work at it. The dead can be enraged by changes in the family after they die. Especially when people didn't talk about eventualities-like a spouse remarrying or children going to live with grandparents etc. Sometimes the dead just can't be reached. Also sometimes the dead don't meet who they thought they would...a dead husband might not find his wife after he dies-if it was an obligatory marriage...
Dementia appears to have a purpose. To let people balance things out. Many big tough men become like little babies, Well behaved wives get angry and stick out their tongues. The big thing is that it's all OK. We go on after we die. We end up happier, with perfect health and eternal life. People can live many lives. Death is a transition. When we all begin to learn to speak to our dead loved ones and clear the pain and emotions around loss and especially difficult or violent deaths we will learn we can relax about living. What would it mean to you to not have that fear? Let go. Take risks. See our purpose. The dying usually become very tired and sleep a lot. When they are getting close-they may open their eyes and look at you with a twinkle. Remember to always speak to them about dying-no statements-just ask them lots of questions about how they feel about it-Get past curt or pat answers-they actually want to talk about it all. If they're in a coma-talk to them about it. Often, after lying motionless for days-the dying will get out or fall out of bed-apparently to "get things moving"-"get unstuck" so they can move on. If on morphine, they may have a less than fully aware death and you may perceive a mist around them but they report after death sorting it all out just fine. If you have a dream of helping them cross over-then the time is coming near. Most dying know when they are going to die. They have immense power to direct energy and arrange people to show up at just the right time like to have certain people around when they die. They feel passionately about needing to bring resolution to things- IT IS THEIR CENTRAL MISSION. Library books mysteriously appear so they may be returned. They may need to talk about money matters or need to tell people something. It's a privilege to assist them with this-no matter how trivial something may seem-it's important to them. People mostly report after death being in a wonderful 'vacation hotspot' or peaceful summer lake kind of place. A place that assists them with feeling good. The dead report feeling elation and thrill of complete restored health. A 98 year old is now 40 and glowing. They may not shut up about it at first! Tiny children may unexpectedly be in their 20's and full of things to say-kind of startling to those that lost a newborn or toddler-eh? Violent deaths are no big deal to them. It's all ok now and they report it as being like getting a short illness-yes some pain but they got over it quick. Think of when you were sick-it usually fades away quickly.
This is only a TINY fraction of the important discoveries she talked about on death and dying. There is so much useful info coming out and a new acceptance of an emerging study of afterlife and dying that is going to transform the world people. Julia Assante is a PhD scholar of ancient societies and grew to see that fear of death began with the early Judeo-Christian teachings. Communing with your dead loved ones was once common as dirt. Yahweh-the jealous god needed no other gods getting worshipped (dead people were accepted as divine) and so they had to separate us from them. Ultimately, Necromancy (talking to the dead) you would be killed for practicing. Death itself became a punishment-with hell especially. There's no need for this stuff. I am so happy but my eyes are so red from crying over and over in the workshop today.
Sorry this was so long. Love, Brian
P.S. Julia Assante has a book with all this and tons and tons more called The Last Frontier. I promise you will always be glad you let this woman influence your view of death.
The facct is, I have read just about everything you said here since I got interested in it back in high school, but I got the info from many different places. It is great to see someone put it all together in one fat package! I also got put in between a living person and her deceased childhood boyfriend once. I didn't know who it was, I just came back with all this information that brought her to tears, I had said some things that only he would have known. But it was at a soul retrieval weekend up at the Omega Institute,,with Alberto Villoldo. It was pretty freaky,I just ran inti this teenage kid while I was journeying, and he started blabbing to me
Edgar Cayce used to speak about spirit lives, some on other planets. like, if you had been wired out here, you could live a spirit life on stormy Jupiter, until you could be perfectly calm amidst one of the giant storms there. I wished I had lived one of those BEFORE I came here,,,Ha!
Personally, my nde, when I was 21, took me to the light, but I never remembered seeing anyone there, only needing to return, and when I came back, I was on fire! I have always wondered if the shock of coming back from that peaceful environment into a body on fire made me forget what happened there, or whether it is just as the "conversations with god books said,,,you see what you have come to believe, at least for a short time,,and I only knew light! On the other hand, I had read everything I could find on nde's just a couple of years prior to that, and even written papers on it for school. The majority of the accounts I had read involved family members, so I thought that would have been engrained in my head at 21, when it happened to me..
I also can vouch for the transition. I was in a chemical explosion, and saw the whole thing ignite, and the heat wave lift and throw my body in slow motion. There was only pain for an instant, then,,,,just floating...saw my body land face down on the pavement,,,laying there burning in a couple of places....no pain, just playing the observer for a few seconds, then light engulfing me from above......
also, I just mentioned on Fred's post, my best friend just passed on the 10th . He was diagnosed in January, and didn't want to live. He went very fast, and pretty painlessly too. His intention to just leave pissed off his family, but in the end they honored his wishes, and let him go........I think! His son had issues with it, and although he said they worked it out,,,I wonder........I am hoping he will contact me now,,,I could use some advice!! ha!
I bless you with Love Brian. A beautiful post concerning your Expansion of Awareness.
Namaste
Wow. You've been over the line! Julia said the dead report not seeing anyone else there sometimes but that its temporary-you eventually want to be with others...Your best friend.....man-I'm sorry. He was so clear about going wasn't he? That seems really OK but I can see why people would get pissed off about it-it's taboo, how dare he quit? blah blah blah. I assume this is pretty hard for you. I wonder if you can have him in your life. If he is available to you. Julia was insistent about emotional connections. She told us not to casually try to connect out of curiosity-like saying "i just wonder how he's doing". That the key is only connecting with your own loved ones when you have a real emotional need to. It pulls them to you-brings them to meet you in this time-it's like an alarm going off for them to come to you. They usually really want to help. They may need your help too. To get to be complete about something. I was surprised by something she said about how the dead present themselves to you...they can appear as geometric forms or other things. Sometimes I get those...hmmm. They may send signs to us like a butterfly. Even dead pets do this. Have you gotten any signs from him? I helped this guy connect with his dead son and it was kind of strange because though his dad was in pain from his son taking his own life (and really puzzled) the exchange was often funny. The whole thing had the character of a conversation/meeting of 3 living guys. The 'shallow' emotional depth, the teasing, the withholding of communication-the curt answers, slight roughness of things offered up by his son. Afterwards-that's when it sank in. We started crying -not sobbing(uncool), but tears-couldn't talk without sounding totally pitiful. LOL. I kept cracking up at his son holding back from his dad. Typical thing a son would do. I had to keep putting faith in the process-to trust it was real-it's hard to believe it is. Julia said imagination is there to aid the process but I guess you guard against making up things (so things will fit your pictures). The thing is to take 'snapshots' of things as they occur and not embellish them too much. But then you get confirmation of the reality of it like facts you couldn't have known otherwise and it gets real. Does he come into your dreams? That can be a good way to communicate. Peace
Thanks for your patented loving blessing! It always uplifts me...makes me happy-you have no idea. You can tell the workshop got me fired up. Mind expanding, soul expanding. I feel so elated and like my heart grew-like the Grinch. Our first exercise was to do a medical intuition scan of our partner/buddy. Then we tried to visualise auras. I had never seen auras before and I was feeling some anxiety about maybe failing. But it was easy because my first partner and I both saw this same color and then Julia said to the group that usually is what you first see-that exact color. We felt encouraged to do it "right" you know? When we acted as mediums we had to make this heart to heart connection with our experiencer partner. We first got that going together. When it happens, you feel it-like a switch comes on! Then we contacted the person they wanted to talk with as a team. I felt a responsibility for maintaining that heart connection-it seemed like it might be indispensable. I was sort of surprised when Fred's phrase popped into my head the first time: "Your sacred love flows in to me. My sacred love flows out to you." and it helped me soften up at just the right time. The partner asks their questions out loud and listens for answers. If I noticed they didn't seem to get anything- but I had- I would remark on it like to say "he's smiling" or "he doesn't want you to get off that easy" or whatever impression I had gotten. A couple of times I heard sentences. One time I was surprised to see a big mouth open wide and shout " GET OFF YOUR ASS!" and my partner cracked up with recognition. Julia is doing a huge public service because where can you go and learn this stuff in one workshop??? She said she is deliberately sharing these practices (that were usually secret) so society can grow away from the fear of death and dying. We all benefit enormously from her efforts. Sorry guys-I can't help babbling on about this. I just have to share it with someone and glad to have a safe place to do it
I am happy and soo delighted to share in your joy. We are all capable of these connections. You are correct this is a gift...Julia like many of us, is holding open the door. Thank you for walking through into your Heart and through your mind. Every expansion of awareness creates more expansion of awareness.
Let Light flow to your Light. Let your Light expand within you around you throughout you. Let this Light be filled with Love.
Thank you, Brian. Such joy in your words. So beautiful you have connected with Julia.
Namaste
I think that humanity is moving towards a time when such connections and communications will be a normal part of everyday life.
It's nice to know that some folks are pioneering that frontier now.
Dear Brian, May I share a little with you?....Our family heratage is that of Jamaican and Celt Sharmanism together with a good strong dose of Irich Catholasism...... (Wow see the two sides of the coin in that scenario)......We were born Natural Healers...But with the input of the Catholic church some were confused and we as children who could see and comunicate with Nature and Spirit....were chastised and looked upon as.....well you know how it goes.
A couple of years after our beloved daughters death, my sister rang me to let me know that there was a lady living around the corner from her who had a psychic development class going on weekly , "I know we have done it all before, but I thought it might be a bit of fun" she said.....Well I hummd and harrrd a bit but in the end decided to go....... there was a circle of about 8, and each week we would have meditation, read for each other, do a bit aura reading, healing, ect....we all had our places in the circle and to my immediate left sat a young lady that seemed to be very angry.....next to her...her left, was an English lady that was an exceptional reader, and everyone hoped to get her to read for them.
This one week we arrived and all take our places, but the angry girl was not present..... We go into meditation to get in touch with our guides....As I deepen a ball of the brightest white light appears before me...and in my head I hear the words..... "Look Mum I've got a new Heart".......I remember "thinking wow thats amazing".... no emotion or feelings with this.
Later we go into doing the readings and strangely somehow the English lady gets to do all of my reading for the night.... However with each reading she is blocked....Finally embarrassed, she turns to me and says. "I am so sorry Nothing is comming through, all I am getting is a White Light in between us, it's as if someone is standing between us"....
Well, Bugger I was a bit pissed off the best reader in the house and nothing..... All Over...... I went home and sat in the dark and quiet at the kitchen table......My Body began to tremble, the tears flooded the floor and Memory Dawned........three months before she died Bronwyn had said to me....."Mum When I Die, Don't Let Anyone Stand On Your Left.....BECAUSE THATS WHERE I WILL BE" .....
The rest you can imagine I was hysterical. elated, felt guilty that i didn't see it before.... The words flooded like teas. Does she Know How much I Loved Her.........When I calmed Down I thought..... Do I Know How Much Love it takes for what just happened to Happen????? What effort must it have taken from Sprit to do that? ......With Love All things are possible
I gues what I am Trying to get across Brian is it took me many many years to Trust and accept myself, my, communications and vissions....... All too easily conditioning comes in dragging with doubt and fear. People telling us Don't be silly its all in your mind.....Well What Else Is There?.....
Peace and Love
I love what you are sharing here, Brian. I am so happy you gained so much and are so excited. This is one of my very favorite subjects.
With much love and many blessings,
Fred
Man, Viv! That really got to me. I've got water running down my face now. "Do I Know How Much Love it takes for what just happened to Happen????? What effort must it have taken from Sprit to do that?" You gave her the gift of opening to her so she could reach you-what a great act of love on your part. She's got to be bragging on what a great mom she's got! Do you trust that she knows how much you love her? Hey-as I read your story I got this resounding affirmative answer on that BTW.. I once heard someone say that the dead can't reach us until we reach out to them first-it's up to us. That may be a rule of thumb rather than an absolute, but I have this feeling of regret now that I wasn't open to communications with my dead loved ones sooner. Of course that's silly-it's all timeless to them-the blink of an eye.
It feels so good to hear each of you sharing these beautiful stories. What treasures. My dead grandfather is so close to me now that whenever I ask him to be with me or ask him what to do I just get drenched in love, acceptance and support and I start to cry. Did it this morning and out came the tears. It's all so incredible-so completely incredible.
I know Viveka-I have been holding things away for so long-scared to trust the soft way-the way of my heart. The limited way we have been taught by a well meaning society-it's so wrong-it's heart breaking. Fred, I really wish you peace. I hope you and your friend can get communicating sometime (if yr not already;-). Eban Alexander came here this past Friday night (biggest event we've ever had) and talked about his NDE and shared the stage and time with Susan Reintjes who 'brought him out of his coma', a part of his story I didn't know about.. It was great to hear another version of what happened-doing long distance healing and communication with him in the coma. She brought him back.
Thanks for sharing all of this Brian...that sounds like an amazing workshop, so glad you could be apart of that. That was a lot of time and effort you put into that post, though it must have seemed so effortless to you because of your deep passion. I loved hearing your stories and the stories of the others who commented here. It's such a relief to be able to see things like this discussed so openly and without judgement...nobody is going around calling anyone a nut job for believing in these things. lol, not that I would expect that here...but it's just nice to have this place. I hadn't realized how alone I felt in a lot of my beliefs until this very moment...and I guess that's my own doing because a lot of times I hold back my more mystical and spiritual musings for what I think is the benefit of the other people in my life who aren't on the same wavelength or that I don't percieve to be as open minded. Trying to be more open and authentic so hopefully I can share some of this information as the time arises in my life with my friends and family.
It was great you commented so I could go over this post again, rereading comments. I want to be open and flexible mentally to be ready for more experiences like this.
I wish you could have been there for this workshop yourself. For me, experiencing actually communicating with the dead was profound. It deepened me and gave me confidence in what I have only heard about. It was easy but definitely a little peculiar. You can't help wondering "Am I just making this all up?" It required trust between two people in this case-the medium and the 'client'. I liked learning to connect to my partners heart -it seemed like a life skill we should all learn. Jessica Shab (YouTube) spoke about a friend who was held at gunpoint and who had the presence of mind to send love and forgiveness to the person confronting her. He suddenly looked at the gun like "What the heck am I doing?" lowered it, apologized and fled!
We are going to all be changed by what is coming in the opening to knowledge of the afterlife. People are so hungry. Hey-I have yet to read it but you might read Juila's book. She is so gregarious and generous and charming to be around. She doesn't take herself very seriously-(how can you be a medium and takes things too seriously-right?) Cheers,
Brian