FOOD FOR THOUGHT

This was mailed to me this morning and I thought it was worth posting.
Love U
When an old lady died in the geriatric ward of a
small hospital near
Dundee, Scotland, it was believed  that she had nothing left of
any value.
Later, when the nurses were going through her meager possessions, they
found this poem.  Its quality and content so impressed  the staff that copies
were made and distributed to every nurse in the hospital.  One nurse took her
copy to
Ireland.  The old lady's sole bequest to
posterity has since appeared in the   Christmas edition of the News Magazine of
the North Ireland Association  for   Mental Health.  A slide presentation has
also been made based on her simple,  but eloquent, poem.  And this little old
Scottish lady, with nothing left to give to the  world, is now the author of 
this 'anonymous'  poem winging across the
Internet:

Crabby Old Woman
What do you see,
nurses?

What do you
see?

What are you
thinking

When you're looking at me?
A crabby old
woman,

Not very
wise,

Uncertain of
habit,

With faraway eyes?
Who dribbles her
food

And makes no
reply

When you say in a loud
voice,

'I do wish you'd try!'
Who seems not to
notice

The things that you
do,

And forever is
losing

A stocking or shoe?
Who, resisting or
not,

Lets you do as you
will,

With bathing and
feeding,

The long day to fill?
Is that what you're
thinking?

Is that what you
see?

Then open your eyes,
nurse,

You're not looking at me.
I'll tell you who I
am

As I sit here so
still,

As I do at your
bidding,

As I eat at your will.
I'm a small child of
ten

With a father and
mother,

Brothers and
sisters,

Who love one another.
A young girl of
sixteen

With wings on her
feet

Dreaming that soon
now

A lover she'll meet.
A bride soon at
twenty,

My heart gives a
leap,

Remembering the
vows

That I promised to keep.
At twenty-five
now,

I have young of my
own,

Who need me to
guide

And a secure happy home.
A woman of
thirty,

My young now grown
fast,

Bound to each
other

With ties that should last.
At forty, my young
sons

Have grown and are
gone,

But my man's beside
me

To see I don't mourn.
At fifty once
more,

Babies play round my
knee,

Again we know
children,

My loved one and me.
Dark days are upon
me,

My husband is
dead,

I look at the
future,

I shudder with dread.
For my young are all
rearing

Young of their
own,

And I think of the
years

And the love that I've known.
I'm now an old
woman

And nature is
cruel;

'Tis jest to make old
age

Look like a fool.
The body, it
crumbles,

Grace and vigor
depart,

There is now a
stone

Where I once had a heart.
But inside this old
carcass

A young girl still
dwells,

And now and
again,

My battered heart swells.
I remember the
joys,

I remember the
pain,

And I'm loving and
living

Life over again.
I think of the
years

All too few, gone too
fast,

And accept the stark
fact

That nothing can last.
So open your eyes,
people,

Open and
see,

Not a crabby old
woman;

Look closer . . . see ME!!
Remember this poem when you next meet an old person who you might
brush

aside without looking at the young soul within .
..   we will all, one day, be there, too!

That 's heart-wrenching. It saddens me that our elderly are so easily forgotten and cast to the side when they have lived such years and have so much to give. I have always had an affinity for the very old. 

We should give love to them and hold them in high esteem

for the 'ages' that their eyes have seen.

We should visit and give concern.

We should accept the lessons that we can learn

. The old may appear to be feebled and gray.

 But they carry the secrets of their days.

They have grown through times that we have not seen.

We should recognize that they too, once were green.

But it seems that times passes fast

and quick changes dot our narrow past.

 The days of our youth should humor the elder

 and their wisdom should be taught us

so that wisdom will last.

 

 

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UrsulaD's picture

Thanks Misty for that beautiful poem and your caring nature and remarks.

Thanks Denis for sharing your beautiful story.

My mom lived with me for many years. She died a few months before her 88th birthday. She allowed me to learn some very wonderful and valid lessons. She had always been a strong, energetic woman who would tackle anything. Then I saw her become a feeble old lady who could no longer cope with the tragedies she had in her life. I don't think she had ever dealt with anything and had just buried under layers of work and caring for her family plus adopting any strays who needed to be fed and to have someone lend an ear. When she became old and frail, there were very few who cared enough to visit and spend time with her.

She allowed me to learn patience, to realise she was not just a mom, but a human being who had dreams and hopes and fears. I was able to hold her before she slipped into a coma and release her with love.

Love U

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Thank You Dennis,

I appreciate those kind words.

Lots of love to you too

Ursula

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I have sent this to everyone on my list, many of whom are Little Old Ladies. I think this is an exciting time to be an elder as all the old prejudices against old people are about to dissolve as we realize the wonderful truth that we are all one and that we are always the same age inside.

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darling Linda!

Love U

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Nothing I have ever seen in my life is more eloquent or truly said.  And of course it's not just women.  As I near sixty, I see my generation becoming what we once despised.  Working in a health-food store I see elderly customers daily, as well as many illegal aliens (Mexicans are very health-conscious, and culturally attuned to good nutrition and natural healing) - many who are simply invisible to most of us, most of the time.  I wish my Spanish was better, but I always try to give kudos to the spirit of those who seek to own their own bodies and their own health.  No, we do not ever change inside, the core.  We become wise or bitter, foolish or crazy, but we never grow old inside unless we allow it to happen.

8-D

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