Five Lessons about How We Treat People

Five (5) lessons about the way we treat people.

1 - First Important Lesson - Cleaning Lady.

During my second month of college, our professor
gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student
and had breezed through the questions until I read
the last one:

"What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?"
Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the
cleaning woman several times. She was tall,
dark-haired and in her 50s, but how would I know her name?

I handed in my paper, leaving the last question
blank. Just before class ended, one student asked if
the last question would count toward our quiz grade.

"Absolutely," said the professor. "In your careers,
you will meet many people. All are significant. They
deserve your attention and care, even if all you do
is smile and say "hello."

I've never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her
name was Dorothy.

2. - Second Important Lesson - Pickup in the Rain

One night, at 11:30 p.m., an older African American
woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highw ay
trying to endure a lashing rain storm. Her car had
broken down and she desperately needed a ride.
Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car.
A young white man stopped to help her, generally
unheard of in those conflict-filled 1960's. The man
took her to safety, helped her get assistance and
put her into a taxicab.

She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his
address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a
knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, a
giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A
special note was attached.

It read:
"Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway
the other night. The rain drenched not only my
clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along.
Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying
husband's bedside just before he passed away... God
bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving
others."

Sincerely,
Mrs. Nat King Cole.

3 - Third Important Lesson - Always remember those
who serve.

In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less,
a 10-year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and
sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in
front of him.

"How much is an ice cream sundae?" he asked.

"Fifty cents," replied the waitress.

The little boy pulled is hand out of his pocket and
studied the coins in it.

"Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?" he inquired.

By now more people were waiting for a table and the
waitress was growing impatient.

"Thirty-five cents," she brusquel y replied.

The little boy again counted his coins.

"I'll have the plain ice cream," he said.

The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on
the table and walked away The boy finished the ice
cream, paid the cashier and left. When the waitress
came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the
table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish,
were two nickels and five pennies..

You see, he couldn' t have the sundae, because he had
to have enough left to leave her a tip.

4 - Fourth Important Lesson. - The obstacle in Our Path.

In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a
roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if
anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the
king's wealthiest merchants and courtiers ca me by
and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the
King for not keeping! the roads clear, but none did
anything about getting the stone out of the way.

Then a peasant came along carrying a load of
vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the
peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the
stone to the side of the road. After much pushing
and straining, he finally succeeded. After the
peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed
a purse lying in the road where the boulder had
been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note
from the King indicating that the gold was for the
person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The
peasant learned what many of us never understand!

Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve
our condition.

5 - Fifth Important Lesson - Giving When it Counts...

Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a
hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who
was suffering from a rare &serious disease. Her only
chance of recovery appeared to be a blood
transfusion from her 5-year old brother, who had
miraculously survived the same disease and had
developed the antibodies needed to combat the
illness. The doctor explained the situation to her
little brother, and asked the little boy if he would
be willing to give his blood to his sister.

I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a
deep breath and saying, "Yes I'll do it if it will
save her." As the transfusion progressed, he lay in
bed next to his sister and smiled, as we all did,
seeing the color returning to her cheek. Then his
face grew pale and his smile faded.

He looked up at the doctor and asked with a
trembling voice, "Will I start to die right away".

Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the
doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his
sister all of his blood in order to save her.

Most importantly.................. "Work like you
don't need the money, love like you've never been
hurt, and dance like you do when nobody's watching."

Great article as always Mr. John. Thank you.

I thought it was funny about the boulder. One night we ran out of gas and pulled over on the side of the road. My mom and I left my baby girl with her dad at the car and struck out to get gas. We approached an intersection and saw all of these teen-agers scatter. I looked and saw that they had gotten big rocks from the culvert and lined them across the road. I told mom to keep going and I stopped and removed all of the rocks. I was concerned for any motorist who would have had to stop or even worse, had not seen the rocks. But I was also concerned for the kids because they might not have realized the seriousness of what they were doing.

I feel that we are responsible.

There was no coin purse on the side of the road though.......lol.......oh well.

Thanks for the post....These are great lessons for us all.

Misty

lightwins's picture

Misty, I love your compassionate gesture.

John

maryc's picture

These are all wonderful stories, all these acts of kindness,and doing what needs to be done!  Misty, running out of gas really saved the day for those kids and motorists! Love,Mary

I know a big, kind of gruff Montana guy who had run out of gas in the desert of the SW many years ago.  He didn't have alot of money, but a driver stopped and just happened to have a big can of gas that he put into the stranded guy's truck.  When the Montanan asked the man how much he owed him, the good samaritan said; "You can repay me by helping others in need."  It changed the Montana guys life. When I met him he was the most generous man I have ever met.

Namaste,

Tricia

lightwins's picture

Trica, have you ever seen the movie, "Pay it Forward?" Its theme is along the lines of your posting.
blessings,
John

Thanks,

I've heard the title.  I'll rent it and see if I remember it.  It's weird this influence that each of us has on others. Its usually when we have no idea that a pearl of wisdom was just delivered to the right person at the right time from something we said or did.. 

If we are fortunate, somewhere down the road we'll hear testimony from that individual.

Great post!

Tricia

ChrisBowers's picture

I am making a PDF of this to keep in my library!

Thank You John!

Chris

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